After suffering a string of setbacks in 2018, the #MeToo movement is back in the spotlight where it started—with women of color, thanks to an explosive new docuseries detailing shocking allegations of abuse by singer R. Kelly.
The series, Surviving R. Kelly, centers around the infamous “pee tape,” in which R&B megastar R. Kelly allegedly urinates into the mouth of a 14-year-old girl, and the subsequent child pornography trial where he was found not guilty on all charges.
R. Kelly is a monster. But we’re all to blame.
Brett Kavanuagh is spectacularly unpopular with people of color. A stunning 83% of black and 66% of Hispanic voters believe Ford was telling the truth. Almost all of them opposed his nomination.
In contrast, after the sexual assault allegations were made public, Brett Kavanaugh’s popularity actually rose among Republicans, who are mostly white.
I still believe Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. was right, that the moral arc of the universe is long but bends towards justice. Unfortunately, it’s gonna be a while. In the meantime, here’s what you can about it.
Men, when society talks about Brett Kavanaugh, it’s talking about you. “Boys will be boys,” they say, likening sexual assault to original sin—a fundamental flaw that can be overcome, but only through constant internal struggle.
In other words, “Men gotta rape. They can’t help it. It’s their nature.”
You’re better than that. My boyfriend, my friends, they’re better than that. It does every man a disservice to blame the actions of the few on all men.
When Anita Hill testified before an all-male Senate committee that Supreme Court nominee Clarence Thomas sexually harassed her, she was treated like a joke by a hostile media and skeptical public.
In the wake of controversial allegations against Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh, one thing is clear. Very little has changed.
It degrades all men to excuse Kavanaugh’s alleged sexual assault because “boys will be boys.” It degrades all women too. My sexual assault is not your free pass.
It can be difficult to know what makes a good sexual encounter, in the age of pickup artists who instruct men to push past no and box office hits that belittle women’s anger and normalize abuse.
Here are a few things you should look for in every hook-up.